Planning your big day is a huge mix of exciting and scary, with a lot of responsibility placed on your shoulders. While it’s meant to be YOUR day, the more elaborate and traditional the ceremony the more expectations there are when it comes to protocol and who you send wedding invitations to can be one of those areas of concern.
Narrowing down who to include on your guest list is naturally a highly stressful part of the planning process as you don’t want to risk offending someone by forgetting or neglecting to include them. Ask yourself the following 7 questions when you’re deciding on who to send your wedding invitations out to.
1. Have you even met them before?
Often times you meet people for the first time on your big day, and this includes distant relatives and perhaps friends from overseas that you haven’t seen in person before. This is where the plus ones come in and while someone might really want to bring their co-worker, is it really prudent to invite them when you know nothing about them?
2. Are you still in contact with them?
You don’t need to invite everyone you’ve ever been friends with, and you shouldn’t stress about whether or not send wedding invitations to someone you hardly speak to anymore. If someone hasn’t made much of an effort to be in your life and you haven’t care either way, then they probably don’t need to be at your big day.
3. Did I got to their ceremony?
Of course, if they sent wedding invitations to you for their ceremony then you might feel obligated to return the favour. There’s no need to reciprocate this, especially if you don’t speak often as they may have only sent you one of their wedding invitations out of obligation to another person, such as someone you were dating at the time but are no longer with.
4. What about co-workers?
The question of whether or not to send wedding invitations to your co-workers is always a toughie. While you see these people nearly every day and have undoubtedly told them all about your honeymoon plans, are they close enough to warrant being on the guestlist for the most magical day of your life?
Include a co-worker if you feel like you are close to them and you want to, but don’t feel obligated to send wedding invitations to co-workers just because of your routine proximity to them (some of them probably don’t like you that much and don’t want to be on the guestlist anyway).
5. Are they normally present on other special occasions?
If you see someone for big events like birthdays and public holidays, then they are probably someone who you want to have at your special day.
6. Invite all the family to avoid conflicts
While you may only be friendly with 2 out of 3 of your siblings, you need to send wedding invitations to all of them, so you don’t cause drama down the road. The last thing you want is for your sister that you despise to have even more ammo against you when she complains that you didn’t both to put her, a family member, on your guestlist.
7. Can you relax around them?
While sending wedding invitations to your judgemental grandparents is a must, you don’t need to send one to your judgemental boss. Authority figures who you feel you have to constantly impress are going to throw off your vibe and have you spending your special day thinking about their reactions rather than your partner and your future together.